When Is Emotion “Real”? AI, Condolences, and the Social Rules of Caring

By Monica Radu

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Imagine someone losing a loved one and you send them a message generated by AI. Even if the words are thoughtful and appropriate, something about it might feel… off. Maybe even a little cold. I think we would tend to read that act as impersonal, as if the emotion doesn’t fully “count.”

But many of us routinely send sympathy cards, often prewritten, mass-produced messages crafted by strangers. We buy them, sign our names, and send them as gestures of care. Socially, that feels completely acceptable. In fact, the greeting card industry is enormous. Americans purchase billions of greeting cards each year, and companies like Hallmark and American Greetings have built entire industries around helping people communicate emotions ranging from love and celebration to sympathy and grief.

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Tell Me Lies: Power, Privilege, and What Goes Unsaid

By Monica Radu

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I have been waiting years to write this. Tell Me Lies has wrapped after three seasons; For those unfamiliar, the TV series follows a group of college students as they navigate relationships, friendships, and identity over several years, with a central focus on Lucy and Stephen’s complicated and increasingly destructive relationship.

The main timeline begins in 2007, when Lucy starts college, and unfolds through her college years, while a flash forward to 2015 shows how those earlier dynamics continue to affect their lives into adulthood. When people talk about Tell Me Lies, the conversation usually centers on how “toxic” the relationships are. And they are. The lies, the manipulation, the emotional push and pull, the way certain dynamics keep repeating even when they clearly are not healthy. It is hard to miss.

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Not Always Relatable, But Still Meaningful: A Sociological Take on the Kardashians

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By Monica Radu

Whenever the Kardashians come up in conversation, a common reaction is that they are not “relatable.” While that is true, relatability is not necessarily the goal. Much of everyday life already reflects familiar struggles, including balancing work, family responsibilities, financial pressures, and exhaustion. Those experiences are well known and widely shared.

For anyone less familiar, The Kardashians follows the Kardashian-Jenner family, a group of celebrities and business owners whose fame began with reality television and expanded into fashion, beauty, social media, and brand entrepreneurship. Their lives are highly visible, carefully curated, and shaped by extraordinary economic privilege and public attention.

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The Quiet Stigma of Being an “Older Mom”: Shame, Social Clocks, and Identity

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By Monica Radu

When actress Claire Danes recently talked about becoming a mom again in her mid-40s, she described a mix of joy, shame, and the subtle shock people express when they hear she has a newborn at 44. It struck a chord with me because the reactions she described felt familiar. I’m 41, and the other day someone casually asked if I was my toddler’s grandmother.

The moment that question landed, I experienced what sociologists call the looking-glass self—the idea that we form our sense of ourselves by imagining how others see us and then reacting to that imagined judgment. In that moment, I wasn’t just thinking about my own age; I was picturing what they must have been thinking about me. I laughed it off, but internally I went into a spiral: Do I look that old? Why did that bother me so much? And why do other people’s assumptions have so much power over how we see ourselves?

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“You Don’t Look Like You Have Four Kids:”  Challenging What We Think Motherhood Should Look Like

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By Monica Radu

Motherhood comes with a whole set of cultural expectations about what it should look like, feel like, and even who is seen as a “typical” mom. I was reminded of this recently during a quick doorstep conversation with a delivery driver. I mentioned how much I rely on their services with four little ones at home, and she said, “Oh, wow. You don’t look like you have four kids.”

I think it was meant as a compliment; I’m pretty sure it was. But it stuck with me. Not because I was offended, but because it made me think about what we expect motherhood to look like.

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Man vs. Bear: A Sociological Hike Through Fear, Gender, and Stereotypes

By Monica Radu

I hadn’t thought about the “Man vs. Bear” debate in quite a while—not since TikTok first erupted with heated takes on whether a man or a grizzly bear would be more dangerous to women. But then today, I took my three youngest kids on a hike in the woods (something I’ve never actually done before), and the question took on a whole new meaning.

We were about 30 minutes into our hike. It was mid-morning, a little cool and rainy, and we hadn’t seen another person on the trail. My kids and I joked about what we’d do if we saw a bear: run away, play dead, or (in my 4-year-old’s plan) fight it off with a stick. It was lighthearted fun. We were thinking about wildlife, not people.

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To Go or Not to Go:  Why Student Choice Matters in the Class Attendance Debate

By Monica Radu

Does attendance really matter?

It’s a question I ask myself a lot, especially on days when it feels like I’m lecturing to an empty classroom.

The topic of optional class attendance at colleges and universities often sparks heated debates. At its heart, this isn’t just about policies, it’s about agency, the ability of students to make meaningful choices about their education. In higher education, agency shapes how students engage with their learning environments, whether in a lecture hall, a small classroom, or a virtual meeting space.

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The Balancing Act: Why “Showing Up” For Kids Matters, But so does Showing up for Work

By Monica Radu

If you’ve spent any time on TikTok lately, you’ve probably come across the “showing up” trend. It’s a feel-good trend where parents proudly showcase how they try to be present for their kids, whether it’s for school events, games, or random day-to-day moments that mean the world to children. The message is heartwarming: being there matters, and kids notice when parents show up. I also know that research consistently suggests that parental involvement is important. But as a working mom, I can’t help but feel a little tug of anxiety every time I see those videos.

The pressure to be physically present for every milestone or school event ties into the larger societal expectation that good parents—especially mothers—are always available. This isn’t a new idea, but social media has amplified it, making it harder for working moms to ignore. These pressures align with the concept of intensive mothering, which demands that mothers devote immense time, energy, and emotional labor to their children, often at the expense of their own needs or professional aspirations. Whether it’s a holiday party or a preschool graduation, there’s an unspoken (and sometimes spoken) expectation that we’ll be there. And while these moments are important, they often come at a cost.

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Baby Bumps and Big Reveals: Exploring the Gender Reveal

By Monica Radu

Gaining popularity during the baby boom, baby showers have been a hallmark of family celebrations for decades. These rituals are often filled with pastel decorations, gift-giving, and games that revolve around the joy of welcoming a new baby. Traditionally, these events were almost exclusively hosted by women and attended by female family members and friends, reinforcing long-standing gender norms around motherhood. The focus was on preparing the expectant mother for her new role and ensuring that she was equipped with the essentials for raising her newborn.

According to a January 2023 survey of 1,000 U.S. adults, baby showers rank as the sixth most popular social event, with 65% of Americans reporting that they have attended a baby shower at some point in their lives. In the past year, 22% of respondents reported going to a baby shower. The survey also highlighted a significant gender difference, with 80% of women having attended a baby shower compared to just 50% of men.

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Crowdfunding for Companions: Exploring the Social Dynamics of Pet Healthcare Assistance

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Sociologists are intrigued by the relationships individuals form with their pets. Beyond mere companionship, pets often serve as sources of emotional support, providing solace and a sense of connection in people's lives. Pet ownership can positively impact mental and physical health, indicating a significant intersection between pets and well-being. Investigating these relationships offers valuable insights into the complexities of human socialization and emotional fulfillment outside of conventional human interactions.

Pets are frequently considered integral members of the family, prompting sociologists to explore the dynamics of caregiving roles and the construction of familial identity within households. Findings from Pew Research suggest that 51% of pet owners reported that their pets were as much a part of their family as a human member.

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